Are Your Actions Speaking Louder Than Your Words?
Here’s the truth …
This blog post is going to be a little different than usual. I want to share with you an area that God has been teaching me in my own life. I’ve included a couple of lists that you may want to print out and keep in your Bible. My prayer is that this post will encourage you and spur you onward to be godly examples—wise women who are seeking after God!
In my quiet time today, I was reminded of this verse: “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it” (Proverbs 22:6 KJV). Interestingly, what is instructed of me is only to train up my child. It is not up to me if she stays or departs from my training. While I pray that she will follow God, that choice is up to her, and not me. Each of us has to answer to God for ourselves. However, my responsibility is to train my children according to God’s Word.
The word “train” means to discipline, to teach and form by practice, to educate. I have had to ask myself, “how” and “what” am I training my children? Rachel Cruze, daughter of Dave Ramsey, a world-renowned financial adviser, said in Smart Money Smart Kids, “I truly believe that more is caught than taught ... that what your kids see you do is a lot more powerful than what they hear you say. Words can be strong, but actions are stronger. The strongest impact on children, though, is when they hear and see a consistent message from their parents” (Ramsey & Cruze, 2014, p. 85).
No matter their age, our children will always be our children. Therefore, we have a life-long responsibility to set the example. This will look different as we go throughout our lives, but the key is to be consistent.
Thinking about this principle of training and setting the example, I have also had to ask myself the following questions. I have listed them below for you to go through and ask yourself.
What kind of example am I setting for my children?
Are my actions backing up what I say?
Do I say “Trust in the Lord” (Proverbs 3:5 KJV), and then become anxious and worried?
Do I say “Be ye kind … tenderhearted ...forgiving” (Ephesians 4:32 KJV), and then become easily irritated and upset?
Do I say “Casting all your care upon Him” (1 Peter 5:7 KJV), and then stress out and play the “what if” game?
Do I say “Have a meek and quiet spirit” (1 Peter 3:5KJV), and then become easily excited and unable to think clearly or rationally?
Do I say “She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness” (Proverbs 31:27 KJV), and then act lazy and slothful?
What are my children, my family, my friends, and others seeing and hearing from me? Are my words and actions in opposition to each other? What does God see? Those are sobering thoughts! If you are like me and you see that there are changes that need to be made in your life and speech, there is hope! Outlined in His Word, God has given us precious verses and promises that will help us as we train our children.
Below, I have given you another list which are verses of encouragement. As you look these up in your Bible, ask God to show you the areas that need improvement. Seek forgiveness from Him if you have sinned. Ask Him to help you make the changes that He wants you to make. These changes won’t all happen overnight, but if you submit to His leading and guiding, He will do an amazing work in your life.
Be the example – 1 Timothy 4:12
Be a wise woman – Proverbs 14:1 and Proverbs 31:10-31
Teach younger women – Titus 2:3-5
Be a gracious woman – Proverbs 11:16
Have a meek and quiet spirit – 1 Peter 3:1-6
Finally, ask yourself these two questions:
Am I teaching worrying, anxiousness, irritability, laziness, slothfulness, gossip, unkindness, wastefulness, unkindness, foolishness, meddling, clamoring, contention, argumentative, etc.?
Am I teaching thankfulness, grace, graciousness, forgiveness, kindness, helpfulness, diligence, wisdom, correct priorities, hard worker, honor, virtue, meekness, quietness, loveliness, patience, obedience, etc.?
As women of God, we have been given a great responsibility. Whether we are single or married, young or old, we are to be setting an example that points our children, our families, and other people to Christ. Our lives are not “ours.” Paul tells us, “What? Know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God's” (1 Corinthians 6:19-20 KJV). He then adds, “Whether therefore ye eat, or drink, or whatsoever ye do, do all to the glory of God” (1 Corinthians 10:31 KJV).
Am I training my children to the glory of God? Am I living and speaking in ways that honor Him? The results of my training are not up to me. Obedience to God is what is required of me. Let’s make today a new start of being women of God that honor and obey Him.