Be a Doer
Here’s the truth …
Have you ever compared yourself to the Proverbs 31 woman? You know, the one who never sleeps, runs her own business, and sews all her own clothes. Her house is spotless, and she not only planted a garden … she planted an entire vineyard! She is Superwoman!
I used to compare myself to her, too! And then I would look around my home and see laundry piling up, dishes still in the sink, clutter everywhere, and think, how does she do it all?
There is no way one woman can do all of this! I would make excuse after excuse of why she had it so much easier than I did. She must have had money, servants, gifts and talents that I certainly didn't have. But those excuses didn't really help me … they paralyzed me. I figured, why try? No one can measure up to her.
One thing was lacking in my life. Oh, I was saved, but I was denying the power of God. I was failing to give Him total control of my life. I wasn't spending time in His Word every day, so I didn't really know what God could do through me. I was a “hearer,” but not a faithful “doer” (James 1:22).
Then one day, about 20 years ago, God brought me to the end of myself … and that's where I needed to be. I was sitting in the hospital for about a week as my son recovered from surgery. While he slept, I began to go through a book that my Sunday School class was using. It was covering the book of Proverbs. As I worked through the book, God began working on my heart, showing me where I needed to make changes. I was trying to take care of my son, homeschool my other children, keep up with the housework, and continue to be involved in various church ministries. I was neglecting the most important thing—time alone with God and His Word. So, as I sat in the hospital, God took away all the things that I thought were so important—things I thought I just had to be doing—and He showed me that my priorities were out of whack. I needed to realign my focus to be on Him and what He wanted to do through me.
Looking back, it was such a precious time as He gently taught me and ministered to my heart. Over and over He has proven His faithfulness and love to me! Philippians 1:6 says, “Being confident of this very thing, that He which hath begun a good work in you will perform it until the day of Jesus Christ” (KJV). He has faithfully continued to work in my life. He's changed me!
As I spent more and more time with Him, I began to see Him work through me, instead of me trying to do all the work on my own and ultimately failing. When I struggled with managing my home and homeschooling my other children, God provided wisdom and help. He led people into my life who mentored me and taught me how to be a godly homemaker and how to manage my time. He sent me teachers who helped me homeschool my children. I cannot praise Him enough for the wonderful things He has done in my life.
One of the first things He taught me was that I needed to have “His” priorities: God, husband, children, home, and then ministry. For too long, I had these completely out of order. I started reading Titus 2. God began to show me what a godly wife and mother looked like. Titus 2:4-5 tells us, “that they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands” (KJV). Why? Well, “that the word of God be not blasphemed.”
That shocked me! You mean, there were things that I could do (or not do!) with my life that would blaspheme and hurt the Word of God? The word blaspheme means “to speak evil of God,” and we can do this not only with our words, but with our actions. I didn't want to do that. I began to realize that I had some changes to make.
I started praying and asking God to make me into a wise, godly woman like the women described in Titus 2. I made changes in my behavior and priorities so that they were in obedience to Scripture. And do you know what? I began to see God working in my life! As I followed God's way of doing things, my family and my home ran so peacefully. I started teaching my young daughters those same priorities and principles that I was learning. My husband and I grew closer to each other and to the Lord, and so did our daughters. God was working in each of our lives and in our home.
I also studied that infamous “Proverbs 31” lady, and it wasn't too long before we became friends. She had so much to teach me, and I was very willing to learn. In fact, to this day, we still meet occasionally, and I continue to learn from her. I am so grateful that God gave me this precious woman to be one of my mentors.
In addition, I read and studied the life of the sweet widow in 1 Timothy 5 who had given her whole life to follow God and was blessed for it. I also read, in that same passage, about women who ignored Scripture and were forever marked as silly and idle women.
I want my life to build up the Lord Jesus with my priorities, my home, my words, my actions, and my relationships. Proverbs 14:1 says, “Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands” (KJV). The more I read and learned from wise women, the more I realized that I desperately needed God's Word to guide every step of my life. I've learned that without Him, I can do nothing (John 15:5b).
Let me encourage you to read for yourself how God can change your life. The most important thing you can do every day is to spend time reading His love letter to you and then put into practice what He teaches you. Will you dare to be a doer of the Word?